Brits have a strange sense of pride in being busy, to the point where it’s almost a form of social currency. If someone asks how you are and you reply with anything other than, ‘not enough hours in the day, mate’, what the hell are you doing with your time?
In a survey of 2,066 adults in the UK, 45 per cent cited stress as the biggest passion killer in the bedroom
Think back to the last day you made an error at work, or the traffic was a nightmare, or you accidentally put your gym kit on a boil wash. You can see why it’s such a vibe killer.
The survey, by BBC Radio 5 Live, revealed physical health as the second biggest barrier to Brits’ sex lives – 32 per cent feel that it has an impact on intimacy. The good news? You can boost your libido by hitting the gym.
Mental health issues affect 26 per cent of the public, along with having children (20 per cent), work (18 per cent), and watching porn (12 per cent).
Even though we’re all glued to our phones 24/7, social media isn’t as pressing an issue as you might think, with just 10 per cent claiming it interferes with their sex lives.
Children aside, family members quash the libidos of 10 per cent of Brits, while reality TV and friends cause issues for seven and five per cent respectively.
According to Ellen Brady, a therapist from relationship charity Relate, the best way to approach a stagnant sex life is to press pause and ‘start from scratch’.
“Ban sex, because whatever you’ve been doing sexually it’s gone wrong, so you want to wipe it out and start again, and just reconnect emotionally and in terms of intimacy,” she told the Daily Mail.
“There’s a big gender divide on that one, because women very often want to buy into emotional intimacy and kisses and cuddles and quite often men don’t see that as a priority, they see sex as the priority.”